Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. – Buddha
When somebody or something makes you unhappy, you have two choices: you can dwell on hurtful events and situations, or you can accept what has happened, and focus on moving forward. It’s easy to hold onto resentment, but studies show that forgiveness can lead to healthier relationships, less anxiety and stress, greater psychological wellbeing, and higher self-esteem. By comparison, holding onto a grudge risks bringing anger and bitterness into your relationships with others, or becoming so wrapped up in negativity that you’re unable to see the bright side.
Choosing to let go of resentment is not about forgetting that something painful has occurred, or about condoning bad behaviour; but rather taking responsibility over your feelings and putting yourself before those who have hurt you. Next time you’re feeling angry at someone or something, ask yourself whether it’s really worth sacrificing your health over – or whether you should put it behind you and focus on your own happiness.